Why Divorce isn't Your Identity - And How to Reclaim Yourself

The decision was made. The papers are signed. You are officially divorced. Now what?

Divorce has a way of becoming part of our identity. We label ourselves as divorced. As women, society labels us as divorced. But here’s the thing—it’s time to shed this label, this identity, and so many other parts of us that no longer serve us.

Because here’s the truth: when we hold onto labels—whether it’s “divorced,” “wife,” “nurturer,” or even “strong woman”—we can start to feel stuck. It’s like wearing a coat that doesn’t fit anymore. You’ve outgrown it, but you keep it on because it’s familiar.

And that’s where the stuckness comes in. It’s not that you’re doing anything wrong. It’s that you’re trying to step into a new version of yourself while still carrying the weight of the old one.

That’s where my 5-phase process comes in.

This process isn’t about fixing you—because you’re not broken. It’s about helping you bridge the gap between the woman you were and the woman you’re becoming. It’s designed to help you uncover what’s really been holding you back, release it, and reconnect with the woman you’ve always been underneath it all.

Let’s talk about one of the most powerful phases: Release.

Release is about more than just “letting go.” It’s about understanding how and why we hold onto emotions in the first place.

Here’s what happens: when we experience emotions—whether it’s fear, sadness, anger, or even joy—and we don’t fully process them in the moment, they don’t just disappear. Instead, they get stored in our subconscious mind and in our body.

Think of it like this: your body is a container, and every unprocessed emotion is like a drop of water. Over time, those drops add up. They create patterns, beliefs, and stories that shape how you see yourself and the world around you.

For example, if you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much” or “not enough,” that belief likely didn’t come out of nowhere. It’s the result of unprocessed emotions and experiences that have been stored in your subconscious mind. And until we address them, those beliefs will continue to influence your choices, your relationships, and even your sense of self.

Why does this matter?

Because these stored emotions and beliefs don’t just live in your mind—they live in your body. They show up as tension in your shoulders, a tightness in your chest, or that sinking feeling in your stomach. And they keep you stuck in patterns that no longer serve you.

That’s why the Release phase is so powerful. Through guided visualization and somatic practices, we create a safe space for you to release these stored emotions—not just mentally, but physically. This isn’t about forcing change or rushing forward. It’s about creating the space for something new to take root.

The result?

You’ll feel lighter, more grounded, and deeply connected to yourself. This is where you reclaim your life—not as a divorced woman, but as you.

Ready to take the next step?

If you’re feeling stuck in this in-between space and you’re ready to move forward with clarity and intention, I’d love to guide you through this phase. Together, we’ll create the space for you to step into the life you’re ready to claim.

Click here to learn more about my 5-phase process and how we can work together